This test was developed by Jason Graves, M. MFT. He also recommends the following books: Sex, Men, and God; The Final Freedom; and 101 Freedom Exercises. For more help and information, visit his website www.healingforthesoul.org or call 1-877-590-SOUL.
- Have you engaged in sexual behaviors that you wish you could stop?
- Do you feel abnormally driven by your sexual drive?
- Have you been in relationships just for sex?
- Has masturbation been ongoing even after marriage?
- Have you continued to use pornography after entering a long term committed sexual relationship?
- Does your sexuality seem to be dragging down your personal potential?
- Do you find that you spend a significant amount of time viewing pornography or grooming others for sexual encounters?
- Have you experienced an unwanted sexual encounter during childhood or adolescence?
- Has monogamous sex grown to be boring?
To score yourself give yourself one point for each yes and read the recommendations below
- 1-3 points: It does not seem that you are presently an active sexual addict. If your concern continues, we recommend that you get more information from the recommended books (www.safefamilies.org/books.php), media (www.safefamilies.org/media.php), and organization links (www.safefamilies.org/links.php) on the Safe Families site.
- 4-6 points: It seems that you may be struggling in the area of sexual addiction. Your first step would be to gather further information. Get books from our recommendations at www.safefamilies.org/books.php. If you want more practical techniques for your behavior, listen to and view our webcast "Overcoming Temptation" at http://safefamilies.org/webcasts/temptation/index.html. If your behavior continues, consider going to a 12 Step Support group (www.safefamilies.org/12steps.php). If you feel that you need to discuss this with a therapist, call Jayson Graves, M. MFT, for a telephone appointment at (719) 590-SOUL (7685) or go to www.safefamilies.org/pastorindividualstep7.php for counseling resources.
- 7-9 points: You are probably sexually addicted. It’s recommended that you: a) Gather more information from our recommended books page, www.safefamilies.org/books.php. b) Start going to a recovery group (more info at www.safefamilies.org/pastorindividualstep6.php). c) Seek professional help; go to www.safefamilies.org/pastorindividualstep7.php for counseling resources.